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This week I just want to do a brief summary of the lessons on the Serenity Prayer. We’ve talked about a lot of things, and while I don’t expect everyone to connect with everything, I also trust that at least some things have been helpful in your journey with God. As I quickly go through the lines of the prayer, I’d like to ask you to consider these questions:
What is one new or refreshed way of thinking about my life in Christ that I have seen through this study?
What is one practice, habit, or discipline in my life in Christ that I have begun to practice or would like to begin practicing after this study?
What is one area we talked about that I’d like to know more about, whether in this group, or in my own personal times of studying God’s Word?
Ok, let’s walk through the lines as we did week by week. And if your most important takeaways were different from what I summarize here, I think that may well be a good thing. We serve a God who speaks to us both as a community and as individual children.
God, grant: The character of the God we pray to shapes the way we pray and how we expect Him to answer. And we recognize our dependence on God, not just for our salvation, but for our day-to-day sanctification.
The serenity to accept the things we cannot change: Life is outside our control, and that’s not only ok, it’s actually good. We can turn to the God who is in control and trust Him as we learn to accept life on life’s terms. We also recognize the truth that we are limited beings, not gods ourselves.
The courage to change the things we can: Living faithfully means doing hard things and costly things at times. We operate in trust that God is at work, and that He will give us what we need to make the changes in ourselves that He is asking us to make. We set aside fear-based decision making and the need to blame others and bravely face what we can do something about.
The wisdom to know the difference: We look for wisdom from God, not from ourselves. That wisdom will come through His Word, through Christian community, and through our time in prayer. It will generally be found in humility and peace.
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time: We don’t stay trapped in the past, or live in anxiety about the future. We try to pay attention to what God is doing in our lives right now and respond to Him in the present. We enjoy what He has given us today for our daily bread more than we focus on what we had in the past or hope to have in the future.
Accepting hardships as a pathway to peace: Hardship and suffering are part of the normal Christian life. We can fight against that reality, or we can look for ways to accept what we have and find contentment in the presence of God with us in the middle of the pain.
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as we would have it to be: Jesus was able to live a holy and righteous life of perfect submission to the Father in the middle of a very broken and sinful world. If we want to navigate this world well, as He did, we need to adopt the same tools of prayer and acceptance.
Trusting that He will make all things right: Trust does not just mean agreeing with an idea, it means taking actions that show that idea. And God gets to determine what “right” looks like. If that doesn’t match our definitions, we choose to trust Him and revise our definitions.
If we surrender to His will: Choosing to follow Jesus means I die to my self and give control of my life to Him. I don’t have to like His will. I don’t have to understand His will. I choose to give up my rights to Him and obey His will.
That we may be reasonably happy in this life: There are things about living God’s way that work even in this life. They won’t give us perfect happiness, but happiness is not really our goal anyway; it is a by-product of having good and God-centered goals for our lives.
And supremely happy with Him forever: Following Jesus is ultimately not about this life anyway. It is about life in a kingdom that is coming and will last forever. We live in all these ways (because God makes it possible for us to do that) because we believe that our lives after the resurrection are going to be incredible in union with Christ. We are learning to live now in ways that will make sense then.
Before we pray the Serenity Prayer together one last time (at least in this study), let me share again the questions I asked at the beginning.
What is one new or refreshed way of thinking about my life in Christ that I have seen through this study?
What is one practice, habit, or discipline in my life in Christ that I have begun to practice or would like to begin practicing after this study?
What is one area we talked about that I’d like to know more about, whether in this group, or in my own personal times of studying God’s Word?
And now let’s pray.
God, grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as a pathway to peace.
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as we would have it to be.
Trusting that He will make all things right if we surrender to His will – that we may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever.
This is what we are doing as Christians: We are trying to learn, by the power of the Holy Spirit, what the language of the kingdom of God is, what its culture is like, how to function in an environment that is foreign to much of what we experience here on a day-to-day level. But in doing that, we are becoming more and more fit for the life that God has waiting for us when He comes again to re-create the heavens and the earth in full reconciliation to Him and full submission to His rule. Much of what we have been praying throughout this study is a part of that training for eternal life. And alongside that training, the tools that we need to keep us going until then.
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And Supremely Happy with Him Forever
1 John 3:2-3; 1 Corinthians 13:12; Revelation 7:16-17; Revelation 21:3-5
Here we are at the end – and we are going to finish by talking about the end, although I might question whether what we usually refer to as the end (or the last days, or the finish) is really more of a true new beginning. We’ll talk about that as we move through the last phrase of the Serenity Prayer: “And supremely happy with Him forever.” First, let’s pray.
Last week, we talked about being reasonably happy in this life, and hopefully we realized that our reasonable happiness in this life is tied to our confident expectation that we have something beyond this life. While we live in the present moment, we live as those who are anticipating a meaningful future. The events of this world, from the beginning of time until the end, are not just random, and they are not just a cycle that we are destined to endlessly repeat. As Christians, we believe that history is heading somewhere – that there is a final destination, not only for us, but for all of creation. And this is where we find ultimate happiness.
The idea of deferring pleasure is not a new one, but it is one that we increasingly struggle with in our culture, and I include the church in that. We can gratify so many of our desires so quickly and so easily – at least in part – that we can easily forget the value of having both to work and to wait for something meaningful. It’s easy to put something in the microwave, or have it delivered, or take the shortcut. And so, things that require sustained discipline in one direction in order to gain a reward have become less common than maybe they once were (or maybe that’s just what all of us say as we get older). But most of the meaningful experiences and changes in my life have come because I have believed that continuing to practice good, healthy, and holy things will eventually produce results that surpass what I can get from a microwave. Much of what the Serenity Prayer has been calling us to is a practice of good, healthy, and holy things now that will benefit us some in the present, and even more so in the life to come.
Let me be clear: our efforts toward living the life God calls us to live are not in any way the means by which we enter the life of the kingdom. We enter the life of the kingdom by invitation of the King, which He has extended to us in the death and resurrection of His Son. And, there are things we can and should do in order to participate in that kingdom life – not only in the future, but now. As we looked at the Beatitudes last week, I hope that connection came through. What Jesus calls His followers (us) to do in the Beatitudes is to live in line with the life that we are receiving now and will fully enter into when He returns in triumph. We are being trained, equipped, and fitted for the life that is to come – the life that is unending, the life of perfect fellowship with God in all His fullness. And that way of living won’t necessarily make sense now. It will often go against the things that bring temporary worldly success in any field. But we aren’t living for this world. We are living now for the next.
The closest analogy I can think of for this is preparing to live in a foreign country with a very different culture. My wife Jayme and I were blessed to live in Prague, the capital of Czechia, for three years, and we’ve gotten to travel extensively to visit missionaries from our church across the world. Many of the things we do to get ready for another culture are of little to no value in this one. Before we left for Prague, I spent a lot of time beginning to learn the language. How valuable do you think that was in Nashville, Tennessee? Not very. And knowing the history and geography of the Czech people didn’t do me much good here. Neither did learning how their public transportation system works, or what the established churches in that country were like. We put considerable time and effort into things that only really helped when we moved to that new country. Oh, there was a place here or there when some of that knowledge came in handy in the US. But for the most part, if we had never gone to Prague, the vast majority of that time, energy, and money would have been for nothing.
And this is what we are doing as Christians. We are trying to learn, by the power of the Holy Spirit, what the language of the kingdom of God is, what its culture is like, how to function in an environment that is foreign to much of what we experience here on a day-to-day level. But in doing that, we are becoming more and more fit for the life that God has waiting for us when He comes again to re-create the heavens and the earth in full reconciliation to Him and full submission to His rule. Much of what we have been praying throughout this study is a part of that training for eternal life. And alongside that training, the tools that we need to keep us going until then.
What is that eternal life going to be like? The most important part of it is contained in this line of the prayer. We will be “with Him.” That is the most meaningful and satisfying aspect of the kingdom life that God is preparing us for (and preparing for us). That we will be “with Him.” That we will walk in deep, fulfilling, intimate relationship with our Creator: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. As I introduced the lesson today, I said that what we usually refer to as “the end” might better be described as the true new beginning. What do I mean by that? Let’s look back to the beginning – the first three chapters of Genesis.
When God created the universe, how did He describe it? It was all good, right? Until He got to people – then it became “very good.” “So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. God blessed them and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” (Genesis 1:27-28) Man and woman worked together in the garden to exercise the authority God had given them to rule together over all creation. Adam later shows that authority by giving names to all the animals – that was part of his job. Did you realize that there was work to do in Eden? Genesis 2:15, “The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.” And later in the chapter, Eve joins him. Yes, after the fall, work becomes cursed because of sin, but in the beginning, it was not so. Adam and Eve worked together in harmony to take care of the world that God had entrusted to them. And they were in harmony not only with one another, but with God Himself. We don’t know how long things lasted that way, but until the fall, creation functioned in perfect order with all the pieces meshing together under the Lordship of God.
And that beautiful picture is what is coming again for us. In Ephesians 1, as Paul is describing what it means to be a saint, a faithful one in Christ – a Christian – he shares one of the mysteries of what God is doing. Ephesians 1:9-10, “And He made known to us the mystery of His will according to His good pleasure, which He purposed in Christ, to be put into effect when the times will have reached their fulfillment – to bring all things in heaven and on earth together under one Head, even Christ.” God is coming to renew all creation and bring back the Garden of Eden – only this time with no serpent waiting in the wings! A day is coming when Jesus will emerge to exert the authority He already has over all powers and principalities, purifying the earth and all creation, and then reigning over the new heavens and the new earth along with us. We (humanity) are going to be given our old jobs back – we will rule over a sanctified and re-created world alongside Jesus!
Sometimes our images of heavenly life have more to do with movie depictions or even favorite hymns than they do with Scripture. And granted, Scripture doesn’t give all the details I would like (probably because I couldn’t understand them anyway), but John tells us this:
“2 Dear friends, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet been revealed. We know that when He appears, we will be like Him because we will see Him as He is. 3 And everyone who has this hope in Him purifies himself just as He is pure.” (1 John 3:2-3)
In living as God’s children now, we are being prepared for something even more that will be revealed when we see Him (Jesus) as He is. Paul makes a similar point at the end of the great love chapter in 1 Corinthians 13:
“For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.” (1 Corinthians 13:12)
I want to make one more point about the life that is waiting for us before connecting back to the Serenity Prayer. I have often heard the Christian life described in terms that I will summarize like this: “Say a prayer with these words. Now you will go to heaven when you die instead of hell. Just hang on until then.” I think that is well-meaning. I think there is truth in it. And I believe it is a woefully inadequate picture of what God intends as we live this life in anticipation of the one to come. John, after describing the transformation waiting for us as children of God, then says, “Everyone who has this hope in Him purifies himself just as He is pure.” Knowing the transformation that is coming when we are raised into our new bodies in the new creation does not lead John to say, “So just hang on until then.” No, he calls us to purity because we know what’s coming and we want to be preparing for it! And Paul’s statement about the full knowledge that awaits us when we see God clearly is at the end of a long chapter encouraging us to live lives full of very practical love. So, our trust that Jesus is coming for us is intended to shape us now!
And what we’ve been talking about for the last several weeks is also intended to do exactly that. Accepting the things we cannot change is an acknowledgement of God’s sovereignty in anticipation of His ultimate rule. Courageously changing what we can moves us and, hopefully, those around us, closer to the kingdom life that is coming. The peace that accepting hardship is intended to lead us to is the peace that comes when Jesus overthrows all enemies once and for all. And every time we surrender to His will, we become a little closer to what we will be in the resurrection. We move further into the identity that God the Father has given, is giving, and will give us in His Son by the power of the Holy Spirit.
And in other ways this prayer helps us move well through things now that will no longer be a part of life in the resurrection. Some of the hardships we have to accept now will not be allowed into the kingdom where:
“Never again will they hunger; never again will they thirst. The sun will not beat upon them, nor any scorching heat. For the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their shepherd; He will lead them to springs of living water, and God will wipe away every tear from their eyes.” (Revelation 7:16-17)
We will no longer need to take this sinful world as it is, because Satan will be overthrown, and God will descend from heaven to live with His people:
“3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, ‘Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. 4 He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more deathor mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.’ 5 He who was seated on the throne said, ‘I am making everything new!’ Then he said, ‘Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.’” (Revelation 21:3-5)
We will still take the world as it is, but the world will finally be as God would have it to be, and we will get to enjoy Him and His Presence forever.
This is why we practice the things we’ve been studying for the past several weeks, as well as all the Word of God teaches us about the way to live: because we believe a new and better life is coming. And in that hope, we choose to do things that are often difficult and painful in this life, because we no longer think of this place as our permanent home. Ultimately, we don’t live in Prague, or Lebanon, or Antioch, or Carthage. We are citizens of heaven. And we are called to live as those who know that one day, we will be supremely happy in our home.
We will wrap up next week with a summary of the Serenity Prayer. I hope that God has used this to shape your lives in some of the ways that He has shaped mine. Let’s close again this week with the Serenity Prayer. Please join with me as we pray this prayer as a community together.
God, grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as a pathway to peace.
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as we would have it to be.
Trusting that He will make all things right if we surrender to His will – that we may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever.
May God empower us this week to live this life in confident hope of the even better life to come. In the name of Jesus, Amen.
Trusting is not really the same thing as just holding a correct idea in your head. It involves surrender, a “leaning against.” Trust results in actions. When we trust the Lord, we give up our own control and allow him to truly be God.
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James 2:14-26. Proverbs 3:5-6
When we closed last week, I mentioned that, at least for me, this week’s phrase is in many ways the linchpin of the Serenity Prayer. Of course, the whole thing goes together – all these things we are asking God to give us are connected – but at least in my experience, trust is the key to all the other requests in this prayer. And in fact, I think trust is central to the Christian life. As we begin this week’s time together, let’s pray.
[PRAYER]
Let me start by putting trust together with a couple other words that may be more “churchy”: belief and faith. I think many of us are very used to considering faith as core to our relationship with God. We believe in salvation by faith alone, apart from works. We confess our belief that Jesus is Lord and Savior, that He died for our sins and has been raised from death to life. But I am glad the Serenity Prayer uses the word trust instead, because sometimes using a slightly different word can help us capture the depth of words that we are so familiar with that they may have lost some of their meaning.
When it comes to the words faith or belief, I think that we have unintentionally lost some of the Biblical understanding of those words. Too often, in our churches, faith has become nothing more than a mental nod in the direction of an idea. And belief has become about having a good, solid list of correct doctrine in our heads. Now, I believe in good, solid, correct doctrine. I think it’s important for our spiritual health and living kingdom life in Christ. But when we limit faith and belief to things that are only happening in our heads (or our hearts), we have stepped away from a Biblical understanding of faith. Biblical faith is about where we put our trust. What are we relying on for our well-being?
You’re probably familiar with the old illustration of the tightrope walker who is crossing back and forth between two skyscrapers with a variety of props – a ball, a wheelbarrow, a load of bricks. After crossing back and forth several times and demonstrating his skill, he asks the crowd, “How many of you believe that I can walk across this tightrope carrying a person on my back?” Having seen his skill, the crowd responds wholeheartedly that they know he can do it. Then the acrobat asks for a volunteer to be that person, and the crowd goes silent. I fear that too often, this reflects my own approach to faith. I am quick to assent that God can do the things that need to be done in life – but how quick am I to show that trust by actually putting myself in His hands without a safety net of some kind – just in case?
When we ask God to give us this trust – and remember, this whole prayer begins with “God, grant.” We are not trying to make ourselves trust, we aren’t trying to generate our own courage to get out on the rope. We are asking God to give us the ability to respond to Him with trust. This is not about whether or not we can put the correct answers on the doctrinal questionnaire. This is about whether or not we can be willing to receive from God the ability to let go of control and allow Him, not us, to determine what will happen next in our lives and in the lives of those we care about.
And to be clear, this part of the prayer is not about asking us to trust God for our salvation. I mean, yes, it would include that, but this is a prayer (at least as I understand it) for believers. For people who have already trusted God to deliver us from our sin. This prayer is more about our sanctification, about the ongoing work of God’s Spirit in us to display His Glory as He calls out the identity of son or daughter that He has given us in Christ Jesus. And trust or faith or belief is just as big a part of our sanctification as it is our salvation. It is God who has brought us into His kingdom, and it is God who is doing the primary work of making us holy. We are called to trust Him and surrender to that process. (And next week, we will talk more about what surrender looks like.)
Having laid all that groundwork, I’d like us to take a look at some familiar passages about trust/faith/belief in Scripture. We will go back to James for the first passage. Let’s read James 2:14-26.
“14 What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save them? 15 Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. 16 If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? 17 In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.
18 But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds. 19 You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder.
20 You foolish person, do you want evidence that faith without deeds is useless? 21 Was not our father Abraham considered righteous for what he did when he offered his son Isaac on the altar? 22 You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did. 23 And the scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness,” and he was called God’s friend. 24 You see that a person is considered righteous by what they do and not by faith alone.
25 In the same way, was not even Rahab the prostitute considered righteous for what she did when she gave lodging to the spies and sent them off in a different direction? 26 As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.”
What is James saying here? Is he telling us that there are things we have to do to have salvation? Absolutely not. But I believe he is confronting the same problem that the tightrope walker faced. It’s easy to say we believe something. But the kind of faith relationship God calls us into is one that will inevitably result in action. James is defining what real faith, Godly faith is. He starts off with the illustration of a person in need. If we say all the right things about that person, but actually give him nothing, what good has it done? He is still hungry and naked. And in the same way, if our faith produces no action, then it is just a set of empty words. Our relationship with God is not about saying a magical set of phrases that give us a ticket into heaven when we die. It is about reorienting our lives so that God is in charge of them. If we trust Jesus, our lives should change! If they don’t change, that raises the question (I’m not saying it answers it automatically, but it should at least raise the question) – is my faith alive? Is it producing God-centered obedience in my life? If not, James has no use for empty words. He’s pretty clear – the demons know there is only one God. The gospels make clear that the demons recognized that Jesus was the Son of God. But that “statement of faith” is useless for the demons, because it results in more rebellion rather than transformation.
We often tend to separate thoughts and feelings and actions into distinct categories. The Bible does not use some important terms in that way. Think about love for a minute. Biblically, love is less about what we feel and more about what we do. Think about 1 Corinthians 13, which is full of observable actions that show love. James is saying that faith is like that too. There is no such thing as a true living faith disconnected from actions. Some of our reformation and counter-reformation debates have put a filter in front of this passage that was not there for James’s Jewish Christian readers. It was obvious to them that living faith is always connected to action. And James brings up two examples from Jewish history.
The first is Abraham, the father of the faithful. Now, I want to be clear here – Abraham was brought into relationship with God by God’s actions, and Abraham’s (or before his name change, Abram’s) decision to trust God. But everyone connected that decision to concrete actions in Abraham’s life: circumcision, moving across the world, sacrifice – even willingness to offer up Isaac! Those actions not only demonstrate the faith that Abraham had, they are themselves part of it. Faith is interwoven with the actions that he took because of his trust in the God who was speaking to him. The same thing is true for Rahab. Her righteousness – her deliverance – is built on trust. She trusted that Israel’s God was more powerful than the gods of Jericho. She trusted that the spies would keep their word. And she took action. I’m not even sure how I feel about some of the actions she took. (Does God need us to lie to protect His people?) But she took them because she trusted this God of Israel enough to take action, and in taking those actions, her faith came to life, and she was delivered (she was saved).
James uses another line at the end that we may read differently. We make a lot of distinctions between body, mind, soul, spirit. And while this is a topic for another time, many of those distinctions come less from the Biblical revelation of human nature and more from Greek philosophy filtered through the Enlightenment. So, when James says the body without the spirit is dead, he is saying a person is intended to live with those in unity, not commenting on separable parts. The same thing is true of faith as an idea and faith as an action. They are two parts of the whole. When we trust God to make all things right, that includes taking actions that are shaped by that trust.
This next Scripture is one that I have held closely for over 40 years. I am not claiming that I have lived it out for forty years, but that I have seen how incredibly important it is for me. Proverbs 3:5-6,
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.”
Let’s unpack this for a few minutes. Trust – believe in God – wholeheartedly. But not just with your heart. It affects your mind as well (and again, these are less discrete parts and more ways of talking about different aspects of a whole human being). Instead of leaning on my understanding, what am I to lean on? If I trust God, I am leaning on His understanding. What has He said about the way to handle the situation in front of me?
I’m a smart guy – and that has been one of my biggest problems. Because I have (or think I have) a lot of good ideas about what the solution to a problem should be, it is easy for me to think that I am the one who needs to bring the solution to the problem. But I’m not the one who makes things right. God is. Think about leaning, because it’s a good word to help us understand trust. If I lean on something, I am literally putting my weight on it. If it is unreliable (untrustworthy), I will fall over. And this proverb is telling us what – or Who – is trustworthy. And it isn’t me. It’s God.
The proverb also tells me that this applies to all my ways. And again, acknowledging God is not just waving in His direction with a prayer. It is actively living in the light of His sovereignty and Lordship. I am confessing, not just with my brain or my mouth, but with my actions, that I am under His command as part of His kingdom. Not just when it comes to church. But in all my ways. How I work. How I play. How I rest. How I engage in relationships, from the most important people in my family to the casual encounters at the gas station. What do I do with my finances? My dreams? My sexuality? My hobbies? I am turning all these over to God because I trust Him to direct me where He wants me to go – which may not be where I want to go.
And that leads to one of the great difficulties we have – or at least I have – with trust. Some of the things that God makes right, He makes right in ways that I don’t approve of, and on timetables that I think aren’t good, and using people that I would not choose. But you see, I am not leaning on my own understanding of what is right – I am trusting God to define what is right. This was really clear to me in a Bible study with some close friends many years ago. We were reading through the Israelite conquest of Canaan. Have you read that recently? God tells Israel to do some things that I would call horrible. But my friend Matt made a really critical point that has helped me ever since. It all depends on how we start. If I start with the idea that I know what is good, and then evaluate God based on how He measures up to that definition, I will find myself in trouble. (I will be leaning, putting my weight on my own understanding.) If I start with the belief that God is good, and that I need to let Him define what goodness means, then I am trusting Him.
As we move toward wrapping up this week, I want to share one more thing that has been helpful for me in working with God to grow trust in my life. And this also goes back to how we define trust/faith/belief. Trust is not just an idea that has no practical impact. And trust is also not defined by the way I feel about the actions God is asking me to take. This may be really simple for you, but it was groundbreaking and eye-opening for me. Early in my recovery journey, I told a sponsor that I just didn’t feel like I could do something he was asking. (It was something simple, like call him every day no matter what was going on.) His answer was, “You don’t have to feel like doing it. You just have to do it.” And I have come to believe that God wants the same thing from me. I can get trapped in my feelings of fear, or guilt, or some other emotion, and believe that because I don’t have a feeling of trust, that I can’t trust. But that’s not true. I can’t think of many places in Scripture where God commands us to feel a certain way. And I don’t think He ever tells us we must like one of His commands before we act on it. He does tell us to trust Him enough to do what He says, and leave the results up to Him.
And that’s another hard part of this line. We’ll talk about this more next week, with the idea of surrender, but trusting God inherently means letting Him be in charge of what happens next, and that isn’t always pleasant. It never has been. Spending one hundred years building a boat probably wasn’t pleasant. Abraham’s journey to the altar with Isaac wasn’t pleasant. Living in slavery in Egypt for generations wasn’t pleasant. The exile wasn’t pleasant. And certainly, the cross wasn’t pleasant for Jesus, nor were the persecutions that came for His followers. Trusting that God will make all things right sometimes means that an angel sets Peter free from prison; sometimes it means that Herod is allowed to execute James the brother of John.
Trusting that God will make all things right does not mean that all things will go as I’d like them to go – that all my prayers for healing will be answered when I pray them, that God will open or shut the doors that I want Him to open or shut in my life or in the lives of people I love. I talked last week about the insurance situation that was causing major pain for a family at our church. God has not, in my view, made that right – at least, not yet. If anything, things have gotten worse. But I give up my right to decide what is better or worse in circumstances and trust God. After all, if He only did things that I liked or that made sense to me, what need would I have to trust Him? I don’t have to trust people much if they are going to do what I want them to do anyway. But trusting God is a challenge. That’s why we need to ask Him for the gift of trusting Him. That’s why we need to pray this prayer – or at least, I do.
With that said, let’s close again this week with the Serenity Prayer. I hope you’ll join with me as we pray.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as a pathway to peace.
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it to be.
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will – that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever.
This week may God deepen the trust you have in Him and empower you to take the actions that display that trust, even when it looks foolish or weak or doesn’t make sense. Amen.
Jesus has better things to do than try to directly fix all the places and patterns of sin in the world. He is, instead, focused on establishing a people who will be different, who will respond differently. Trying to make the world live differently is not a healthy response to its sinfulness. Instead, Jesus lives differently Himself, and He calls us to do the same.
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Taking, as Jesus Did, this Sinful World as It Is, Not as I Would Have It to Be
John 17:9-16; John 19:10-11; Matthew 22:16-21; 1 Corinthians 5:9-13
I don’t know if you’ve noticed it this week or not, but the world is a wreck. We are surrounded by news around the world about wars, revolutions, economic collapse, famines, droughts, floods, earthquakes, disease. And sometimes things nearer to home aren’t any better. We experience painful losses, misunderstanding, betrayals, and disappointments on a somewhat regular basis. It is not hard to sing with Andrew Peterson that the world is broken, that the shadows deepen, and that all creation is groaning. But that same song (Is He Worthy?) also calls us to recognize that there is something else going on, and because of that, to move beyond despair into hope. Jesus did that. And this week, as we continue our journey through the Serenity Prayer, we will focus on the line, “Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it to be.” Let’s pray as we begin.
Maybe I’m stating the obvious, but it seems to me that if we want to take this sinful world as Jesus did, we should probably look at how Jesus (and His earliest followers) responded to the world. The brokenness of the world is nothing new. In fact, the description I gave as we began is a loose paraphrase of what Jesus says in Mark 13 and Matthew 24 as He prepares His followers for what is coming. And, in truth, that description has applied to much of the world for much of the time. Not all of it at once, of course, but some part of it almost anywhere at almost any time. And Jesus was describing the brokenness largely in physical terms. What about the brokenness of sin: murder, rape, theft, racism, abortion, sexual sin in all its diverse forms, deceit, treachery, greed? We encounter at least some of these almost daily, and others at all-too-frequent intervals. So did Jesus. The world of His day was one where the Jewish people lived in a relatively insignificant province of the Roman Empire, which was not a good place to live unless you were part of the handful of wealthy and powerful ruling families, or at least connected to them. So how did Jesus deal with the brokenness and sin of the world around Him?
Let’s look at two stories where Jesus encounters the sinful world and see how He deals with it.
We will start with the most direct encounter between Jesus and a representative of the sinful world He lived in – His trial before Pontius Pilate. Jesus has already stood trial in front of the Sanhedrin (the Jewish Leadership Council), and now He is in front of the person who wields the power of the Roman Empire. The Roman Empire was known for many things – most of all, the willingness to exercise power in whatever form was necessary to get the job done. Pilate was no exception to that rule. According to the first-century Jewish historian Josephus, Pilate eventually lost his governorship after slaughtering a group of Samaritan archeologists. Josephus and another first-century Jewish historian, Philo, also record separate incidents where many Jews rioted over Pilate’s decisions regarding images of Caesar, shields with inscriptions of Caesar’s divinity, and the use of the temple treasury to fund an aqueduct. This was not a good and godly ruler. We know his decision about the execution of Jesus was based on political expediency, not justice. He couldn’t afford another riot and the political fallout from it. So, when Jesus, the Son of God, is face-to-face with this unjust, callous manifestation of the sinful world, how does He respond? Let’s read Mark 15:1-5
“15 Very early in the morning, the chief priests, with the elders, the teachers of the law and the whole Sanhedrin, made their plans. So they bound Jesus, led him away and handed him over to Pilate.
2 “Are you the king of the Jews?” asked Pilate. “You have said so,” Jesus replied.
3 The chief priests accused him of many things. 4 So again Pilate asked him, “Aren’t you going to answer? See how many things they are accusing you of.” 5 But Jesus still made no reply, and Pilate was amazed.”
If there was ever a time when Jesus could have demonstrated His power over the sinful world, this would appear to be it. He is in front of a corrupt political leader. He is there because of bogus charges. And Pilate’s only concern is how to get out of this with as little damage as possible. And what does Jesus say about the injustice of this? About the hypocrisy of the accusations? About His own innocence? Virtually nothing. His only statement in the synoptics is a short sentence: “You have said so.” He doesn’t admit to being the king of the Jews (because in the sense Pilate means it, He isn’t); He doesn’t deny it (because in a deeper sense, it absolutely is true). Jesus is not surprised by political corruption or the abuse of power by pagan authorities. He takes this world as it is – broken, sinful and a mess.
John records another sentence of Jesus when He is on trial before Pilate.
Jesus answered, “You would have no power over me if it were not given to you from above. Therefore, the one who handed me over to you is guilty of a greater sin.” (John 19:11)
I’m not going to get into the different ideas about who “handed Jesus over” to Pilate today – but I am going to highlight that Jesus recognizes that even though Pilate is misusing the power that he has in Jerusalem, he only has that power because God above has allowed it. This connects back to what we talked about last week: that part of accepting hardship is recognizing the sovereign power of God to intervene, and trusting that when He doesn’t, He is still at work. Jesus has already asked the Father if there is another way and accepted that this path is the path of His Father’s will. In one sense, Pilate is just a bit player in the great drama of redemption that is unfolding. And while Jesus would be accurate to point out all that Pilate is doing wrong, He has more important things to focus on. He is taking the world of the Roman Empire, and its power over Jerusalem, as it is, even though that is not how He would like it to be.
Let’s look at a less well-known example of Jesus recognizing the sinful world and choosing to do nothing directly about it. In Luke 9, Jesus is pivoting toward the crucifixion. Everything from that point forward is pointing toward Jerusalem. And as He begins that journey, He encounters the sinful world. Luke 9:51-56
“51 As the time approached for him to be taken up to heaven, Jesus resolutely set out for Jerusalem. 52 And he sent messengers on ahead, who went into a Samaritan village to get things ready for him; 53 but the people there did not welcome him, because he was heading for Jerusalem. 54 When the disciples James and John saw this, they asked, “Lord, do you want us to call fire down from heaven to destroy them?” 55 But Jesus turned and rebuked them. 56 Then he and his disciples went to another village.”
Jesus is moving toward His death. The path takes Him through a Samaritan village, and He sends people ahead to prepare a place, but they are rejected by the Samaritans living there. Part of what Jesus is facing here is racial prejudice – the Samaritans and Jews were regular enemies (which is what makes the story of the Good Samaritan so offensive to its original hearers). It is unfair and not right that He can’t stay in the village. And two of His apostles, James and John, see the unfairness of it and jump to their master’s defense. They are ready to bring the wrath of God down on this village. They seem to me to be quite excited about the prospect, in fact. And Jesus, rather than approving of their fiery judgment or correcting the village, rebukes them! That must have been quite a shock. Not the first or last time Jesus shocked His followers, but still…why isn’t He ready to destroy those sinners? Instead, He just goes further on the journey, and hopefully (the text doesn’t tell us), gets a better welcome there.
What do those two stories show us? If I could sum it up in a sentence or two, I might put it like this: Jesus has better things to do than try to directly fix all the places and patterns of sin in the world. He is, instead, focused on establishing a people who will be different, who will respond differently. Trying to make the world live differently is not a healthy response to its sinfulness. Instead, Jesus lives differently Himself, and He calls us to do the same. In John 17, as Jesus is praying for us, He acknowledges that we are still in the world, and will be subject to the evils of the world – we will experience the world’s hatred, in fact. But He explicitly says that He is not asking the Father to remove us from this sinful world, but to protect us so that we don’t give in to the ways of the evil one while we are surrounded by the sinful world. He is calling us to a different life (John 17:9-16).
Now, an important side note here: we are talking about how to engage the sinful world as it is – not ignoring sin in ourselves or the people of God. Jesus does directly and firmly address the sin within Israel, almost always directing it at the most Godly and religious people. You can read Matthew 23 for a clear example of that. But this week we are not talking about taking sin in the church as it is – we are talking about taking the sinful world as it is, as Jesus did. And Jesus saved His confrontations of sin for God’s people, not the world at large.
If we go to Paul for a moment, he is really clear about the distinction between our response to sin in the world and sin in the church. 1 Corinthians 5:9-13 follows Paul’s direct statement to the church at Corinth that they were wrong to tolerate a man having an affair with his stepmother and needed to put him out of fellowship. And he goes on to clarify:
“9 I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— 10 not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. 11 But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sisterbut is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people. 12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13 God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.”
Paul is about as clear as he could be here. He does not expect Christians to cut off all relationships with sinful people – that would certainly make evangelism difficult, wouldn’t it? At the same time, he is drawing a hard line about tolerating sin in the church. And I do want to point out here that Paul’s list includes more than sexual immorality, and it can be worth thinking about how we deal with unrepentant sinners in lots of different categories – but that’s for another series of sermons, I think. The point I want to be clear on here is that, of course, we deal with sin among people who are committed to a life of following Jesus as Lord – but we don’t hold those outside the church to the same standard. We take, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is – full of people and systems and structures that are opposed to the ways of God.
So, what can we learn from Jesus’ responses to Pontius Pilate and the Samaritan villagers? After all, most of us are unlikely to be sent to a kangaroo court in the middle of the night because our Messianic claims are making us too popular, or denied a place to stay while walking from one village to the next. We’d have reservations at a hotel or AirBnB ahead of time. Where and how are we likely to encounter this? And how can we respond?
I may step on your toes some at this point. If I’m wrong, forgive me. If I’m right, please listen! I am convinced that as American Christians, we spend way too much time and energy trying to make the world not be sinful when we would be better off focusing on tending the fruit of the Spirit in our own lives and our own communities. One of the places where I believe I see this most often is in the way we interact on social media. We condemn non-believers for acting like non-believers – how else do we expect them to act? I don’t like it any more than you do when people do or say outrageous things about Jesus Christ, but He put up with much more than that and chose to save His confrontations for the sin in Israel (and now, in us). Let me give you one concrete example of what I mean from this summer’s Olympics. Were there some offensive things done and said around the Olympics? Absolutely. Pagan things were exalted, and it should not be that way. But pagans do pagan things (around a contest that was pagan in origin to begin with). And me posting about my offense on Facebook doesn’t feel like the way Jesus responded to the pagan injustice of his day, or the way Paul tells us to. Again, I may be wrong, or only partially right, but I think it is at least worth considering the possibility that it is God’s job to defend us against the world, not our job to defend Him.
I think a Christ-like response to the sinful world begins with acknowledging that it is, in fact, a sinful world, and will be until the True King comes for His Bride. We don’t like it. We don’t approve of it. And we certainly should not cooperate with it. But we do need to accept that it is a fact, and then ask God how to respond to the evil that exists without being consumed by it or drawn into using the methods of the world to fight the world. Ephesians 6:12 tells us, “Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” Paul goes on to list the weapons of righteousness, which are very similar to the fruit of the Spirit, and he finishes by exhorting us to pray. Our main weapon in the battle against the sinfulness of the world is not social media posts, or protests, or better laws, or better politicians. All those may have a right time and place. But our main weapon is prayer, and living the life of Jesus in spite of the world around us that will not understand what it is that we are doing.
I am under no pretenses that this will be easy, and I am deeply aware that prayer often feels weak in the face of worldly power. This is one of the most difficult and challenging places for me to accept that Jesus’ way of living is best, even when it feels ineffective. As I was writing this sermon, I got a call from a family at church. I am currently furious about what I see as a deep injustice being done by an insurance company that could endanger the well-being of children in a family I care about deeply. I honestly want to go break something (or worse, someone). If I thought I could fix this by calling down fire from heaven, I would be very tempted to give that a try. But the first thing I need to do is acknowledge, this world is full of sin and brokenness. God has allowed this to happen. How does He want me to respond to this sinful world in this moment?
I don’t have all the answers to that yet, but I know it begins with prayer. I prayed for the person who called. I prayed for the medical people involved. I prayed for the insurance agency. I prayed for the whole family and everyone else who will be involved. And I asked a few others to pray as well. Now, God may also provide some steps for me to take in this situation. There may be actions that I will need to take with serenity, courage, and wisdom. But first and foremost, I need to seek my Father’s face and listen for His voice. That’s where the answers will be – whether I like them or not.
It strikes me that this is one reason Jesus was often withdrawing to pray. The sinful world puts lots of pressure on us, either to conform to it and its ways, or to respond to it in ways that don’t bring anyone closer to the kingdom of God. If I am going to be able to respond to this family’s situation in the manner of Jesus, I will need to continue to spend time with my Father and pray.
With that said, let’s close again this week with the Serenity Prayer. I hope you’ll join with me as we pray.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as a pathway to peace.
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it to be.
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will – that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever.
Next week’s phrase, “Trusting that He will make all things right” is one that strikes me as a key to this whole prayer, and indeed as something that is at the heart of the Christian way of life. Until then, may God protect you from the evil one as you walk through this sinful world this week.
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James 3:13-18
Brothers and sisters in Christ, welcome back for another look at the Serenity Prayer and how God can use it in our lives as part of His work in transforming us into the image of Christ. Two weeks ago, we talked about serenity – the ability to accept with peace and confidence the reality that life is sometimes difficult and painful. Last week, we talked about courage and the need at times to take action in response to those circumstances. This pretty naturally leads to the question, “How do I know when to serenely accept something and when to courageously take action to change it?” And this week, we will look at at least a partial answer to that question. We are going to talk about asking God for the wisdom to know the difference.
What does it mean to have wisdom? We will look to the Biblical text in just a minute, but before we do that I want to distinguish between wisdom and knowledge. Knowledge is information, facts, data. These days, you can learn in five minutes on your phone what would once have taken hours at the library to look up. Is that good or bad? Probably some of both. But my point here is that some knowledge is pretty easy to obtain. How much did it rain in London yesterday? Who holds the world record for the 100m dash? When was Louis the 14th King of France? How can I get to this address? But having information and knowing how to use that information – those are two different things. Wisdom is more concerned with the second.
For instance, knowledge can tell you where you can purchase a certain piece of equipment for your home or business, how much it will cost, even how long the warranty will last. But it takes wisdom to know if now is the right time to make that purchase. And particularly when it comes to human relationships, knowledge may be important, but wisdom is far more helpful in navigating those relationships. So, one way to look at wisdom is by saying, “How do I use the information and tools that I have?” And as Christians, we are asking, “God, how do You want me to use the information and tools that You have given me in order to bring You glory?” This includes the tools of serenity and courage – things that He has been giving us in response to our prayers.
Wisdom is something that appears to be pretty high on God’s radar for us. The Bible is full of references to wisdom and descriptions of wisdom, including entire books of the Old Testament like Job, Proverbs and Ecclesiastes. Several of the psalms also connect with that theme of wisdom. But I want to start with a New Testament reference to wisdom. The book of James, traditionally assigned to James the brother of Jesus, is clearly influenced by his knowledge of the Jewish wisdom tradition. As with most of the New Testament, the Jewish background that prepared the way for the Messiah takes on new depths once Jesus has come and paved the way for the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. So, while the language that James uses would have been very familiar to his readers, who were primarily early Jewish Christians, he is adding depth to their understanding now that the Messiah has been revealed. In some ways, this is similar to what Jesus was doing with the law when He preached the Sermon on the Mount – building on a foundation that God has laid in Israel and taking it farther than Israel had dreamed it could go.
Let’s look at one of the passages in James that describes wisdom. We’re going to read from James 3:13-18.
“13 Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15 Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. 17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. 18 Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.”
There’s a lot packed into these six verses. If God gives us wisdom, what is it going to look like? One of the first attributes James mentions is humility. There’s one place where the difference between knowledge and wisdom comes sharply into focus. I love the way C.S. Lewis describes humility in Mere Christianity at the end of the chapter The Great Sin, which is about pride:
Do not imagine that if you meet a really humble man he will be what most people call ‘humble’ nowadays: he will not be a sort of greasy, smarmy person, who is always telling you that, of course, he is nobody. Probably all you will think about him is that he seemed a cheerful, intelligent chap who took a real interest in what you said to him. If you do dislike him it will be because you feel a little envious of anyone who seems to enjoy life so easily. He will not be thinking about humility: he will not be thinking about himself at all.
If anyone would like to acquire humility, I can, I think, tell him the first step. The first step is to realize that one is proud. And a biggish step, too. At least, nothing whatever can be done before it. If you think you are not conceited, it means you are very conceited indeed.
Honestly, I’m tired of hearing Christians – myself included – go on and one about how smart we are, how we have the right answers to everything, and how everyone ought to just stop and listen to us. We may have the right knowledge – but in that case we are still lacking in wisdom. And that can be hard when I do, in fact, have some right answers. But James is right to point us to humility as a key component of wisdom. If my response to a situation is built on how good it is going to make me look, or boosting my ego, that solution is not based in wisdom (at least, not in Godly wisdom). One of the most brilliant Bible professors I ever knew, a man who was fluent in multiple ancient languages, the contexts in which the passages were written, and the history of their interpretation, would often begin his answers to a difficult theological question by saying, “I might be wrong, but it seems to me…” His humility was profound.
James goes on to talk about the dangers of envy and selfish ambition. Paul says almost the same thing in Philippians 2:3. He is calling the church in Philippi to imitate Christ in unity, and he also makes the connection between humility and selfish ambition:
“3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.”
Am I seeking to get my own way in a situation? Am I trying to make sure I come out ok? Then I am probably not operating in wisdom. James associates that kind of wisdom with disorder, wickedness, and even the demonic. So, what is Godly wisdom like? We’ve already talked about humility, and the important role that it plays. Let’s look at a few more of the characteristics James mentions
Full of mercy and good fruit. Mercy is so central to God’s character. And wisdom will often call on us to show mercy to others rather than demand what we may deserve in a situation. Our responses are to be full of the attitude that God has toward us – rich in mercy, slow to anger, and desiring repentance where there has been wrong. Wisdom, like love in 1 Corinthians 13, is not self-seeking and does not keep a record of wrongs. And I think James is intentionally connecting this to good fruit. Merciful actions toward others will often result in good fruit – and especially when we are engaging other believers. Of course, sometimes we don’t see that fruit until years later, if ever. But wise choices on our part should be ones that open doors to good outcomes in the lives of the people we are engaging.
Impartial. Wisdom doesn’t play favorites. If we use the information or influence we have to steer the outcome of a situation toward what we want (instead of seeking what God wants), we are operating in that realm of competition to get what I want – we are engaging like the world does. James goes on in the next verses (which start chapter 4) to talk about how the world fights for what it wants, but that is not God’s way for us. And it can be so easy for me to convince myself that what I want is really what is best anyway. That’s why I need God’s wisdom – and in just a few minutes we will talk about some ways to help us sort through our own agendas, needs, and preferences to hear the wisdom of God more clearly.
Sincere. Wisdom is honest in its dealings with others. Wisdom does not play the game of pretending to believe one thing so that we can manipulate a situation to get what we want out of it. God’s wisdom doesn’t need to be sneaky and deceptive in its dealings. When we are behaving wisely, we mean what we say, and we follow through on it as best we can. No promising one thing while intending to deliver another.
And finally, peace. Wisdom leads to peace. Now, what is James, as a Godly Jew, thinking of when he uses his word for peace? The Hebrew word for peace is “shalom.” We often use “peace” to describe a situation where there is an absence of conflict. We sent the kids to their separate rooms so that we could have a little peace. But shalom is deeper. Shalom is not just an absence of conflict – getting everyone to put down their weapons. Shalom describes a situation where the conflict has gone away because the causes of the conflict have been appropriately and healthily dealt with. In other words, the peace that is a part of Godly wisdom is not just accepting whatever happens, no matter if it is right or wrong (that is not the serenity that we have been asking God to give us). But this peace is the peace that comes when things are well-settled. And that may actually require some healthy conflict in order to get to a place of real peace. Wisdom will move in the direction of peace – eventually. But wisdom does not always mean just doing what it takes to “keep the peace.” With God, things often are more difficult in the short-term, but He is looking toward a very long end – eternal even – and He is willing to have conflict now to bring true and lasting peace.
My wife and I have had our struggles over the years with doing this well. I’ll give you one example that may seem small, but it points to a bigger problem. When we first started dating, I really wasn’t good at remembering flowers for special occasions. Well, one time I brought her some chrysanthemums. And she was so glad that I bought her some flowers that she made a big deal over them, and I decided that must be her favorite flower. For the next ten years or so, any time I got her flowers, I bought chrysanthemums. It turns out, those weren’t particularly her favorite. But she didn’t want to upset me or discourage my flower-buying, so she didn’t say anything. And I thought all was well until she eventually told me the rest of the story. Now I sometimes buy her chrysanthemums, but I also buy roses, or lilies, or whatever I see that makes me think of her. And in that small area of our lives, we are closer to shalom. But we only got there when she took the risk – found the courage – to bring up an area that could have caused conflict. By the way, there are much more significant examples of conflict in our marriage over the years – I just decided to tell a simple one.
Okay, there’s several of the attributes of wisdom. But, in addition to praying, what else can we practically do to help us make wise decisions? Here are three things that I have found helpful in making wise decisions.
First, slow down. Yes, some decisions have to be made in the moment, but even then, there is rarely a time where I am faced with a significant decision, and I can’t take a moment to breathe and ask God for help, rather than simply react. This is especially true for me when I’m feeling strong emotions about whatever is going on where I need wisdom. Alcoholics Anonymous has a great line for me to remember: “We pause when agitated or doubtful and ask for the right thought or action.” If I want wisdom, I generally need to stop, take a breath, remember that God is running the universe, not Wade, and see what He has to say.
And most of the time, I don’t have to make a decision on the most important things in that moment. I usually have time to stop, to think, to pray. And what has become really important for me is having trusted friends that I can ask for input. When I am facing a difficult decision, it is easy for me to be blind to my pride, selfishness, hidden agendas, and mixed motives. And taking my own advice about what is wise has led me to some of the stupidest decisions of my life. When I talk to my wife, my fellow pastors, my most mature friends, and others, I can gain a perspective on the situation that is not skewed by what I know I want. And I am much more likely to receive the wisdom that God has for me.
About two years ago, Jayme and I were trying to make a difficult decision about how to handle a situation with our children. We both stopped and prayed. We took time to think about it. And after months of doing that, we were still in different places about what God wanted us to do. So, we came together to Tom and Kari and laid out our perspectives as best we could. Jayme (my wife) and I agreed ahead of time that we would trust Tom and Kari and take their advice. I didn’t like their answer. They agreed more with Jayme. And we have followed their input since then. I still don’t know that I like it – but I agree that it was wise to listen to them. Involving other people takes courage, because I am surrendering my right to be in charge and trusting that God will use His people to help me.
Here’s a different example, also family-related, where getting input from the Holy Spirit through other believers has led me towards the serenity to accept something I can’t change instead of the courage to change something. I run into this with my kids regularly. They have a problem. I have an answer. And my answer is probably right. But one of the wisest pieces of advice I’ve ever been given – and this applies to more than just my children – is, “Wade, stop answering questions that people aren’t asking you.” Wow! That requires a lot of the humility James talked about. I have to stop thinking of myself as the fount of information and answers and trust that God is at work in the situation, and sometimes the wisest thing for me to do is Shut Up! I don’t like that. And it may not always be the perfect answer – but it is often a good one.
And that’s suggestion number three. Some of us, including me, can get hyper-focused on making sure we have the wisest answer, and then we get bogged down and don’t do anything because we are not completely sure which way to go. I am convinced that God is more interested in the long process of developing relationship with Him than He is whether we get a specific decision exactly right. So sometimes, we pause, we take input, and then we make the best decision we can, trusting that even if we got it wrong, God is able to work with us and in us and around us to bring things back on course. He certainly did that with the history of Israel. And He has certainly done that with me.
So, when do we accept a thing we cannot change, and when do we courageously act to bring change? We ask God for wisdom. We look for answers that lead to humility, mercy, and true peace. We take a breath, ask others for help, and take action trusting that God can work in our imperfect decisions.
I’ll close again this week by praying the Serenity Prayer, and if God leads you, please feel free to join me in learning and praying this prayer.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as a pathway to peace.
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it to be.
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will – that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever.
Well, now we have gotten through the more familiar part of the Serenity Prayer. Next week we will start into the less-known part. May God bless you with serenity, courage, and wisdom until we talk again next week.
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SCRIPTURE: JOSHUA 1:1-6
Welcome back to our look at the Serenity Prayer and how it can be a tool for God to use to help us walk in Biblical truths as we allow the Holy Spirit to continue to transform our lives. If you’ve missed the first two weeks, I’m Wade Jones, pastor at Priest Lake Christian Fellowship and long-time friend to the Hilpert family and New Joy Fellowship.
So far, we have talked about what it means to ask God for gifts, and what it looks like to receive and practice the gift of serenity. This week, we are going to look at the gift of courage. When we ask for courage, what does that look like, and what effect will it have on our lives when we receive and practice that gift?
I know when I think about Biblical courage, the first passage that comes to mind is Joshua 1. So, in this passage, Moses has died, and God speaks directly to Joshua, his successor. Three times in this chapter, God tells Joshua to “Be strong and courageous.” What is God asking Joshua to do? And more importantly, what is God doing around Joshua when He gives Joshua this command? Let’s read the first six verses of this passage together:
1 After the death of Moses the servant of the Lord, the Lord said to Joshua son of Nun, Moses’ aide: 2 “Moses my servant is dead. Now then, you and all these people, get ready to cross the Jordan River into the land I am about to give to them—to the Israelites. 3 I will give you every place where you set your foot, as I promised Moses. 4 Your territory will extend from the desert to Lebanon, and from the great river, the Euphrates—all the Hittite country—to the Mediterranean Sea in the west. 5 No one will be able to stand against you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with you; I will never leave you nor forsake you. 6 Be strong and courageous, because you will lead these people to inherit the land I swore to their ancestors to give them.” (Joshua 1:1-6)
I want to make an important point here. It may seem small, but sometimes small points can make an incredibly large difference, especially over time. We often talk about Joshua leading the Israelites into Canaan to take the land, and the way we do that implies that Joshua and his army are the primary actors. But look carefully at the language of Scripture in this passage:
Verse 2 – The land I (YHWH) am about to give the Israelites Verse 3 – I (YHWH) will give you every place you set your foot Verse 5 – No one will be able to stand against you, because I (YHWH) will be with you. I will never leave you nor forsake you.
Right here at the beginning, God is emphasizing how fully this will be His action, His power, His conquering. In verse 6, He talks about Israel inheriting the land. How do you get the property of an inheritance? Someone else owns it, and they give it to you on their death. And God also says in verse 6 that He is fulfilling the oath He made to their ancestors, to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. He says similar things later in the chapter, but hopefully this is enough to make the point. The major actor in the conquest of Canaan by the Israelites was God.
And if we move ahead in the story, we will see that pattern continue. How does Israel get across the Jordan River? God piles up the water on either side and they march through on dry land. How does Israel conquer Jericho? They march around it in obedience and God brings the walls down. He is the one making all this happen. Well, if God is the one making all this happen, why does Israel, and Joshua in particular as their leader, need to be strong and courageous?
Remember, Israel has been here before. Forty years before. They stood in basically the same spot, with Moses at their head, and when they were on the brink of coming into the land, how did they respond? (Well, most of them anyway.) They were afraid. They heard the report and got preoccupied with the power of the enemies they were facing instead of focusing on the power of the God they were following. (This is all in Numbers 13 and 14 if you want to read the whole story.) And Joshua had been there for that. He pleads with Israel to go into the land in language that is similar to the language God uses with him in Joshua 1. “The Lord will bring us into the land…The Lord is with us.” Forty years ago, Joshua knew that God was the primary one at work in God’s own plans to bring Israel into Canaan, but Israel couldn’t see it. And as we all know, that led to forty years of wandering in the desert, and along the way Moses lost patience as well, so when they finally come back to this point, he is gone, and Joshua has taken his place. God is telling Joshua to be strong and courageous just as Joshua had told Israel 40 years earlier and based on the same reason: taking the land is God’s job; our job is to be faithful to Him!
This is one of the primary forms courage takes for God’s people, whether Israel or us: to trust that God will do what He says He will do and act on that basis. Sometimes those actions will be risky. That wall of water in the Jordan River could have collapsed at any moment, drowning the Israelites in the same way that the Egyptians had drowned in the Red Sea. Joshua needed courage to trust God when He said, “Walk on through.” And sometimes those actions will appear foolish. What possible military value does it have to circle the city of Jericho for seven days? All that does is make sure the enemy has a good count of your army. We would fire any general who suggested that! Joshua and Israel needed the courage to trust that following God’s directions was the best possible way for them to take the city of Jericho. And we still need the courage to trust that following God’s directions is the path that leads to the best possible future for us.
It’s my opinion that the order of requests in the Serenity Prayer matters. One part of serenity is the ability to accept that life is as it is – to accept life on life’s terms. You see, courage is not glibly or blindly denying that there are difficulties ahead. God does not call us to live in denial, but in trust. And when we have seen the world as it is, some of it will be pretty scary. Courage does not mean closing our eyes to the dangers around us. It means trusting that our Father is a good Father and moving ahead with what He has told us to do no matter what it looks like. We are not called to change the circumstances of the world. We are called to change our responses to the circumstances of the world. And to do that, we need courage. The trust to obey the word of the Lord even if it doesn’t make sense.
“If I tell the truth about that business deal, I will probably lose that customer, and my boss has already told me that if I don’t make my quota this week, I’m going to get laid off. We’re already late on a couple of payments, and I don’t know what we’ll do if I lose my job.”
“That woman is spreading all kinds of rumors about me in the neighborhood. I saw her talking across the fence to Jane just last night. But I know a thing or two about her that will put her in her place, and frankly, I could use the peace and quiet. She’s going to cause me all kinds of trouble if I don’t make sure everyone knows what kind of scoundrel she really is.”
“My close friend is slowly drifting away from God. He hasn’t been to church in weeks, and he’s making jokes at the restaurant about how little time he spends reading his Bible or praying anymore. I’d like to say something to him, but he’s got a pretty mean temper. I’m afraid if I confront him, we’ll get into an argument, and I don’t want to risk losing that friendship.”
I don’t mean to paint any of these scenarios as ones that are simple to navigate. If you are in one of them, please talk to Tom and Kari to get good, Christ-centered counsel about what some good next steps would be. But I can tell you for myself, that when I am in situations like these, I have a pretty strong response of fear to the idea of losing income, or reputation, or friendships. And if I do not pay attention to that, it is really easy for me to slip into making a decision based on that fear, instead of a decision based on trust that God is my Father, and He is on my side. Can God provide for my family if I lose my job? He can – but it may be embarrassing when He uses others to help me. Can God guard my reputation if someone is gossiping about me, or do I need to gossip back to protect myself? He can – but sometimes it takes Him a lot longer than I’d like, and it’s pretty uncomfortable in the meanwhile. Can God comfort me through the loss of a friendship when I have spoken the truth in love, and it hasn’t been well-received? He can – but that doesn’t take away the pain.
This is one of the connections between courage and serenity. I must have the courage to act in line with what God has commanded, and the serenity to accept the reality that the results may not be what I want. And both of those require me to trust Him in ways that may end up being pretty painful.
Here’s another connection: when I recognize that there is something in the way of my serenity, of my peace, that can make me aware of something that needs to change – and usually, at least part of the change will be something that needs to change in me. When life doesn’t go the way I want it to, when things go south, one of my default reactions can be to look for someone else to blame. That goes back all the way to the beginning, doesn’t it? “It was this woman You gave me – she just handed me a fruit and I ate it!” I have always wondered what would have happened next if Adam had the courage to own his responsibility as Eve’s husband and the leader of his garden home. How would the Father have responded if Adam had gone to Him (instead of trying to hide), and said, “God, I blew it. I made a mistake, and I take full responsibility for it. What do You want me to do now?” God probably still would have addressed not only Adam’s sin, but also Eve’s, and I’m sure the serpent as well. But when we resort to blaming someone else, even if they share responsibility, we are missing the opportunity to make courageous changes in ourselves, or even better, to ask God to do that.
Not everything painful in my life is my fault (Tom has a great podcast about suffering that addresses a lot of that). But most of the things in my life are things where I play at least some part, and where there is at least something I can change. All of us have some defects in our character (shortcomings, sins, strongholds) that God wants to address, and those changes will take courage. Maybe I need to be more up-front with my customer to begin with. Maybe my irritation at that neighbor means I haven’t been praying for her, or maybe my tendency to be judgmental is causing me to see her wrongly. Maybe some of my concern for my friend is based on the realization that my own time in the Word has been slipping of late. When I ask God for the courage to change, the first place I ought to look for change is within me. For one thing, that may be the only thing I actually can change. I can’t change my boss or my customer; I can’t change my neighbor; I can’t change my friend. But by God’s grace, I can change. And I will, if I ask Him for the courage to do so.
One of the rooms I go to for recovery meetings has a poster on the wall that refocuses the first part of the Serenity Prayer. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the person I cannot change, the courage to change the person I can, and the wisdom to know that person is me.” If I’m trying to find the courage just to make someone else behave the way I want, I may not have much peace at the end of the day. But if I find the courage to ask God to change the places in me where I’m not walking in trust, where I’m not walking in obedience, where I’m not following Him – those changes are much more likely to occur, and there’s not much anyone else can do to stop them.
I want to wrap up this week by saying again that this is not about trying harder. We are not trying to make ourselves more courageous, or to act more courageously. We are asking God to give us courage to do what He asks us to do. And part of asking that is putting ourselves in a place to receive it from Him. As I said about serenity last week, God usually works in my life through a process of gradual change, not an instantaneous transformation. We are not likely to move from being dominated by fear today to being completely free of it tomorrow. But what we can do is ask for it and cooperate with God as He does it.
Trevor Hudson has written a short book on the Serenity Prayer – that’s what it’s called, The Serenity Prayer, and I recommend it; it’s a good read. At the end of his chapter on this section, he gives the following illustration: “Imagine an escalator going up to God. Whenever we find ourselves struggling with a particular character defect – for instance, always wanting to be in the right – we imagine ourselves picking it up as if it were a poisonous snake, placing it into a sack, and putting it on the escalator. When the sack comes back again, as it surely will, we have a quick look inside, see what it is, and immediately place it back on the escalator. We continue doing whatever we need to, but we don’t try to beat the character defect in our own strength. If we do, it will win every time. Every time the sack returns, we simply put it back on the escalator. After days, weeks, months, or even years, we notice one day that the sack doesn’t come back. We realize that God is in the process of changing us.
Change is often painful. Change generally requires courage. God can, and will change us – He will lead us into the Promised Land that He is giving us – if we will continue to ask Him.
I’ll close again this week by praying the Serenity Prayer, and if God leads you, please feel free to join me in learning and praying this prayer.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as a pathway to peace.
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it to be.
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will – that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever.
Thank you for letting me be with you a couple weeks ago at New Joy, and for listening today. May God bless you and keep you as you go through this week. In the Name of Jesus, Amen.
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Serenity to Accept the Things I Cannot Change
John 14:27; John 16:33; Luke 22:41-44; Hebrews 12:1-3
New Joy Fellowship, I’m glad to be with you again. If you missed last week, I’m Tom’s consuegro, which means our children Alana and Matthew married each other. I’m also a pastor at Priest Lake Christian Fellowship in Antioch, Tennessee, and I’m blessed to be able to be a direct part of what God is doing in your fellowship for a little while.
Last week we talked about this prayer as a petition to God – asking Him to give us things that we need. This week we will look at the first thing we are asking Him for – serenity – but I want to emphasize that this is something we are asking God to give us. I may overemphasize this point because it is so easy for me to pray and prayer like this, but interpret it as, “I need to work harder to be serene (or courageous, or wise)” instead of admitting that on my own, I will never reach that goal, and what I am doing is asking God to give me something that I can’t do for myself, and trusting that He wants to do that, is capable of doing that, and will do that in response to my prayer.
So this week, we will focus on asking God for “the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.” Serenity may not be a word you use often in your daily life – I know it isn’t common for me – so let’s talk a little bit about what serenity is. Or maybe we can begin by talking about what it isn’t.
Do you ever feel like life is coming at you faster than you can handle? As soon as you put one fire out, the next one starts. Or you run from spinning plate to spinning plate, trying to keep them all going so that nothing falls to the ground and smashes. Do you hit the pillow at night worn out because your whole day was lived trying to fix one thing after another, solve one problem after another, and clean up one mess after another? Or even if the circumstances you are in are fairly routine and predictable, do you find that your mind can move at breakneck speed, bouncing from one worry to another, and never quite able to settle into a place of peace?
And it’s not just our individual lives, it is also the world around us. We are surrounded by conflict, anger, violence, unpredictability, and rapid change. It seems like as soon as one war ends, another begins. Our neighbors argue, our kids fight, our marriages have tension, and we see all kinds of pain and suffering in the communities around us. It’s no wonder that we often have trouble coming to a place of peace in ourselves!
In fact, the peace that we need and are designed for is not something we can find in ourselves anyway. As Augustine, one of the great church fathers, said, “God, You have made us for Yourself, and our heart is restless until it finds its rest in You.” Serenity – peace – true rest. It’s something we receive from God, and that may be why this prayer begins by asking God to give us serenity – a peace that goes beyond anything that the world can experience or that we can create for ourselves.
The world’s peace is dependent on circumstances. My family goes to a vacation spot in West Virginia every two years called Capon Springs and Farms. It is a beautiful place in the Appalachian Mountains. When we are there, I have a week of real rest and relaxation. The most difficult decision may be whether to have a slice of cherry pie or a brownie with ice cream and hot fudge for dessert (and sometimes I do both). Our kids are all old enough to take care of themselves, and Mom and Dad pay for everything, so it is easy to lay in the hammock and read a book while smelling a hint of bacon cooking on the cool mountain breeze. I usually turn my phone off for the week, so the outside world doesn’t intrude. And my greatest disappointment may be missing a short putt on the mountain golf course. When everyone is having a fun time, getting plenty of sleep, and no one has to do anything but have fun, it is pretty easy to find peace.
Then we come back home. And we find that life has all the same problems it had when we left. The bills are still due. The truck still has no working air conditioning. The child without a job is still without a job. Our friends’ marriage that was struggling when we left is still struggling. That sick relative has gotten worse. And for that matter, the neighbors have gotten a new dog that barks. All. Night. Long. The peace that comes from living in comfortable circumstances has evaporated. In fact, it likely didn’t survive the traffic on the way home.
But Jesus offers us something different. In John 14:27, He says, “27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives.” It’s pretty obvious that what Jesus is describing is not dependent on what is happening around Him. Judas has just left to betray Him. He has told Peter that Peter will deny Him that very night. And when this conversation ends, they will head to the garden, where He will be arrested and then brought to trial and executed. Most of the disciples will flee. And yet, Jesus has peace to offer them in the midst of trouble. In fact, later in this same conversation, in John 16:33, Jesus says, “33 I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
There seems to be a connection between the peace Jesus offers and a confidence that He has overcome the world. And in these chapters of John, Jesus is also preparing the apostles for the coming of the Holy Spirit to continue the work He has begun. So peace (or serenity) is connected to the work of the Holy Spirit as well. In fact, John makes this connection again after the resurrection. In John 20:21-22, when Jesus appears to some of His followers, He says to them, “21 Peace be with you! As the Father has sent me, I am sending you. 22 And with that he breathed on them and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit.” I think Jesus is making it pretty clear that if we are to receive the peace that He is offering to us, the serenity to walk in assurance that Jesus has overcome in the middle of events that would seem to say the opposite, we will have to receive this gift through the Holy Spirit. This is why we need to ask God to grant us this serenity.
So what does it look like to walk with serenity through a chaotic and painful world? This prayer talks about accepting what we cannot change. Let me begin by saying this: accepting does not mean approving. There are many things in our lives that we do not, should not, and cannot approve. But one of the things that gets in the way of our peace is when we attempt to insist that the world simply must be different than what it is. Jesus’ peace did not depend on the loyalty of His closest friends, the justice of the Roman governor, the religious and spiritual maturity of the leaders of God’s chosen people, or living a pain-free life. In fact, He maintained His peace, His serenity, through the betrayal of His closest friends, the injustice of a cruel government, the hypocrisy and manipulation of the priests, and the brutal physical suffering of the cross.
How did He do this? Partly, by accepting that those things were part of God’s will for Him. By trusting that since His Father is Good, He will not allow anything that He does not intend to use and redeem for good. This does not mean that Judas or Peter or Pilate or Annas or Caiaphas or the centurions carrying out the sentence were right. They were wrong, and in need of forgiveness. But Jesus trusted that God would make all things right in the end, and that faith carried Him through the pain, not just of the cross, but of His entire misunderstood life up until then. The cross was not the beginning of Jesus’ suffering, but its culmination. And yet He lived in peace. In serenity.
Have you ever noticed how rarely Jesus seems flustered? How infrequently He seems to be in a hurry? And how willing He is to accept some situations that were not what He wanted them to be, coming to the highest and clearest point in the garden. Luke describes this in Luke 22:41-44 “41 He withdrew about a stone’s throw beyond them, knelt down and prayed, 42 “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” 43 An angel from heaven appeared to him and strengthened him. 44 And being in anguish, he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat was like drops of blood falling to the ground.”
Accepting the Father’s will did not keep Jesus from asking if there was another way. It didn’t keep Him from experiencing pain and anguish as He asked. But it did give Him the ability to walk through this night with assurance that, no matter what happened, His Father was ultimately in control, and He could accept those events with confidence and serenity, even though they were going to be indescribably painful for Him on many levels.
We also face things in life that are painful, unjust, and difficult. And one of the things that derails peace is trying to insist that the world should not be this way. On the one hand, we are right – this is not what God wanted from the beginning. But on the other, we can only live with God in the life that is in front of us, and that means accepting many things that we cannot change. What are some of the things we can’t change? Things that are outside of our control? The weather. The decisions other people make. Whether or not I keep my job. What happens with the economy over the next year. Who runs for president. How long it will be until my car breaks down. Do I have some influence over some of those things? Yes, in some cases I do. And we will talk next week about the courage to change the things I can – to take the actions that God does want me to take in my life. But that will not be enough to make sure that these things go the way I want.
In fact, that’s a good thing. If I could control all those things in my life, what would that make me? Well, it would make me a god. Lowercase g. And I know when I am honest with myself, that a life that runs according to my own plans, wishes and desires is not going to work out in the long run. Not for me, and certainly not for the people around me. Instead, I have to turn my life and my will over to God. And part of that means accepting that, for today, this is the life He has given me to live. With its joys and pains, with its heartaches and its celebration. This is what Jesus did.
And what Jesus has done, He wants to empower us to do. The Hebrews writer says, “12 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3 Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” (Hebrews 12:1-3) Now remember, the witnesses the writer refers to in chapter 11 includes people who faced a lot of suffering: jeers, flogging, torture, stoning, prison, poverty, mistreatment, persecution. And he says we have it better than they do, because we can look to Jesus Himself. Jesus endured with hope and peace (serenity) because He saw the joy that was coming. He saw resurrection. He saw our reconciliation with God. And that helped Him keep going – not just trudging along, but walking in joy because He knew that what He was facing was leading to an outcome that God had guaranteed would be good.
Brothers and sisters, we can have that same joy. In fact, for us, we can already see that resurrection has begun in Jesus. He is the firstborn from among the dead, but we know by faith that we will be raised to life to join with Him. A key part of the serenity that comes from accepting things we cannot change now is the confidence that God will right all wrongs, exterminate all evil, and bring us fully into His kingdom of joy and peace.
As we wrap up this week, let me say one more thing about asking God for serenity. The most valuable things God has given me in my life have come as part of a long process. God rarely answers my prayers with instantaneous transformation. I believe He can. I know sometimes He does. But it has been much more frequent that He works on me gradually, over time, to form and change my character into the character of Jesus Christ. I did not ask for serenity once and receive it forever. But as I have continued to ask, to seek, to knock, I find that He is faithful to give it to me one day at a time. And Jesus talks about that, too. Matthew 6:34 “34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
When I pray, God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, I am not praying it generically for all things that will ever happen. I am praying it for this day, this moment, this circumstance. I am asking for the serenity to accept the fact that I hit a pothole and have a flat tire that will make me an hour late to my next appointment. I am asking for the serenity to accept the reality that one of my children has just made a decision is not what God wants for them. I am asking for the serenity to accept that my performance this month did not give me the bonus I had hoped for. I am asking for the serenity to accept that it rained during the one good slot I had to work in the yard. And over time, I have found that God has expanded my ability to receive the serenity that He has for me in each of those moments and walk in confidence that His future for me is good – even if that good is a good that I experience after the resurrection.
I’ll close again this week by praying the Serenity Prayer, and if God leads you, please feel free to join me in learning and praying this prayer.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as a pathway to peace.
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it to be.
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will – that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever.
Thank you for letting me be with you last week at New Joy, and for listening today. May God bless you and keep you as you go through this week. In the Name of Jesus, Amen.
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Last week, we finished the book of First Samuel. We will pick up with Second Samuel in a few weeks. In between, I’m really excited to host a short series of messages by Wade Jones. Wade is my daughter’s father-in-law, and one of the pastors of a church about thirty miles away from us here in Tennessee.
Wade will spend the next few weeks talking us through the Serenity Prayer. Although the prayer itself is not from scripture, Wade will use plenty of scripture as we go. One reason I’m excited about this is because I think it will get very practical, very relevant to living day-to-day as we follow Jesus.
A note to to those who will listen to the audio version:Wade is a good preacher. Before this, he had never recorded a message except in front of a live congregation. So, during this first message, he said he felt a bit stilted—he was worried about making too much background noise. But I’ve already heard the second one, and he seems to have gotten into the flow quite well for that one. My point is: have patience. I think this will be good stuff for us.
Without further ado, here’s Wade!
SERENITY PRAYER #1: GOD, GRANT
Greetings, brothers and sisters of ClearBible! My name is Wade Jones. I’m one of the pastors at Priest Lake Christian Fellowship, where we pray for your church family at each service. Perhaps more importantly, I have been blessed for many years by the friendship of your pastor, Tom, and we have become family – not just metaphorically, as my son Matthew is married to his daughter Alana. I talked with Tom recently about a teaching series I’d done at Priest Lake, and he asked me to share it with your fellowship as well, which I feel honored to do over the next several weeks.
The substance for these messages will come from the Serenity Prayer. It’s unusual for me to spend this much time on writing that is not specifically from Scripture, but I have made an exception in this case, in part because this prayer specifically has greatly blessed my life and walk with God, and I hope it will prove to bless yours as well. My father had the words of this prayer on the wall of his study at home when I was child. Later, when I came into the world of 12-step recovery, I learned that this prayer was (at least in part) important to that community as well. Praying this prayer has become a regular part of my spiritual disciplines and routines, and God often speaks to me through it. Today will mostly be an introduction to this series, so bear with me through the first part.
Depending on what your spiritual background and tradition is, the idea of praying a prayer that someone else wrote may feel awkward or impersonal to you. And certainly, you have the freedom to pray as the Lord directs – I have no intention of insisting that you use this prayer in the same ways that I have. However, I have found that it is at times useful to pray words that others have written, and I want to spend a few minutes talking about that before we get to the prayer itself.
Often when we pray, we speak conversationally with God, using whatever words and phrases come to mind. That kind of extemporaneous prayer is a wonderful thing. I practice it regularly. At the same time, I find that I sometimes have difficulty putting into words what I am thinking or feeling, or knowing how to come to the Father with what is on my heart. Four different approaches have helped me in those times. Sometimes my best response is to pray in tongues (and talking about that might be a whole different series). At other times, I will turn to the Psalms, and pray the prayers that Jesus would likely have learned in his home and in the synagogue. Yet again, I may sing my prayers with hymns I learned as a child or the most recent worship tunes, and let the words of those texts express my heart’s cry. And I will also turn to prayers that have been a part of classic Christianity – some for hundreds of years, some for decades. One of those last prayers is this one: the Serenity Prayer.
The origins of this prayer are unclear, and go back to classical philosophers. Certainly, the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr used part of this prayer in the 1930s, and he attributed it to a German theologian named Friedrich Oetinger. But as with many good sayings and quotes, there are several different theories and attributions for it. No matter who wrote it, the important part is what it says, and whether or not the words of the prayer fit with the teaching of the Bible and can help us as the Holy Spirit works in our lives to bring us closer to living the life the Jesus has given us.
This prayer has also become very important in recovery circles. I’ve been in 12-step recovery for over 20 years, and almost every meeting I’ve attended has started with the beginning and most familiar part of the prayer. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” There’s quite a lot to unpack there, and we will focus on those lines over the next three weeks. But the prayer goes beyond that to say this: “Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as a pathway to peace. Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it to be. Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will – that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever.”
With that background, I want us to spend the rest of this week’s time focusing on just the first two words of the prayer: “God, grant.”
There are many types of prayer: prayers of praise and adoration, prayers of confession, prayers of intercession, prayers of petition – even prayers of complaint! (If you’re not sure about that last category, there are several psalms I can show you.) The first words of this prayer show us what kind of prayer it is. This is a prayer of petition, of requesting. We are asking God for something. And so, let’s talk about what it means to ask God for something.
Let’s start with God. This prayer is addressed to God, which is just a generic term, although we often think of it as a proper name. For us, we mean specifically the God of the Bible, the Creator of heaven and earth, the sea and all that is in them; the God who revealed Himself to the patriarchs Abraham, Isaac and Jacob; the God who spoke to Moses, giving him the law and using him to lead Israel out of Egypt; the God who spoke through the prophets, did miraculous works through kingdoms and exiles and returns, and the God who has revealed Himself most fully in Jesus the Messiah, His beloved Son. When we approach this God, what does it mean for us to ask Him for something?
Here’s one important piece. When we come to God to ask Him for something, that means that we know Him well enough to expect that we have the invitation to ask Him. I don’t just go up to strangers on the street and ask them to give me something good. But when I come to someone I know and love, and someone I trust loves me, I am free to ask with hope and expectation. Jesus talks about this in Matthew 7:7-11:
“7 Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. 9 Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!”
What does this passage tell us about asking God? First, Jesus actually directs us to do this. It’s a straightforward instruction. Ask, seek, knock. But not just ask anywhere, or seek for anything, or knock on any door. Look at the last verse of the passage. “How much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask Him!” Jesus is pointing us to the Father as the one who can give us the things that we need for life. And He compares the Father’s response to the response of parents. While there are cruel and painful exceptions to the general rule, most parents want and try to give our children what they need when they ask for it. When it’s time for dinner, we give our kids food they can eat, not rocks or serpents. But Jesus says the Father in heaven’s goodness in giving is so much greater than ours that the kindness of parents is evil by comparison. That’s pretty strong! We could talk a lot about what and when and how the Father gives, but the point I want to emphasize here is that it is good and right and even necessary for us to go to the Father to ask Him for what we need. That’s what He expects; it’s what He wants.
What would keep us from going to Father God to ask for something? Well, the picture we have of God will certainly influence that. And often that picture has been distorted by things that we have experienced, or even by beliefs that we have absorbed from the world around us – often without realizing it. If you experienced a parent who was unpredictable, untrustworthy, or unkind – one who might in fact give you a stone or a snake – that can distort the image of who God is. And it can become a vicious cycle. We don’t trust God to give us what we need, so we don’t ask Him, so our life gets worse, and then we trust God less, so we ask Him even less – and it just goes downhill from there. On the other hand, when we can push through whatever barriers the enemy has erected in our relationship with our Father (or when He tears those down for us), and we ask Him for His help, we will receive it. It doesn’t always look like we might choose – sometimes dinner includes broccoli because it’s good for you – but it will in fact be good. And the more we experience His goodness, the easier it becomes to trust and ask Him again.
This is part of what the Hebrews writer is saying in Hebrews 11:6: “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.” Don’t hear this as a reprimand – it’s an encouragement found in the middle of a long list of deeply flawed people who were nevertheless blessed by Father God. Do you believe that God exists? If you don’t, you aren’t going to ask Him for anything, are you? And do you trust that what He gives is good? That He will reward those who seek Him? We will talk more about trust later in this series, but for now, think about trust as enough willingness to ask God for help. Or maybe it isn’t willingness, but desperation.
One more note about God before we turn to the second word. James 1:16-17 says,
Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters. Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.
The ultimate Source of anything good in your life is God. If it’s a good gift, it comes from Him, even if it passes through other channels to get to you. The air you breathe? A gift from God. The car you drive? A gift from God. The work that puts food on your table? That’s a gift from Him as well. The people in your family, your community, your life? Those are His gifts as well. If it’s good, and you have it, you have it because God has given it to you.
Now on to the second word – and we are not going to go word by word each week, but these two initial words set the context for us to understand everything else that we would pray in this prayer. “Grant.” Or give. Provide. The Person we are asking for something is God, and in asking Him we are acknowledging that He has something we lack and need.
That can be hard for us for at least a couple of reasons. A few minutes ago, I mentioned beliefs that we have absorbed from the world around us. Here’s one: “God helps those who help themselves.” Do you remember where that is found in Scripture?…That’s right – it isn’t! Benjamin Franklin popularized it in America, and while he did many good things, his religious beliefs are not generally ones we want to take for ourselves. And he was expressing a belief that goes back to Greek myths about their gods and goddesses and the ways they interacted with people. Again, not a good source for us to build our understanding of the Christian God on. But many of us have internalized that as a part of our faith. We thank Jesus for salvation through the cross, and then proceed as if the rest of life and godliness are up to us. I’m reminded of the prayer Jimmy Stewart prayed at the dinner table in the film Shenandoah: “Lord, we cleared this land. We plowed it, sowed it, and harvested it. We cooked the harvest. It wouldn’t be here, we wouldn’t be eatin’ it if we hadn’t done it all ourselves. We worked dog bone hard for every crumb and morsel, but we thank you just the same anyway, Lord, for the food we’re about to eat. Amen.” Wonder what picture of God Jimmy Stewart’s character had? It doesn’t appear to be the same as what Jesus revealed. But it is one that can easily slip into our thinking, and so we don’t ask God because we believe it is really all up to us anyway. We adhere to salvation by grace, but then act as if sanctification and daily Christian living are things we are supposed to do for ourselves.
Peter, however, in 2 Peter 1:3-4 says,
“His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.
Now, we aren’t passive in all this. Peter goes on in the next verses to tell us to make effort to put these gifts into practice. But they begin as gifts – things God is doing for us that we cannot do for ourselves.
That brings us to a third and final (for this week) barrier to asking God to grant us something. Sometimes, our pride gets in the way. At times I don’t like acknowledging how badly I need God. A cultural message of self-sufficiency and independence, being able to do things on my own, has infected our faith. In fact, I need God desperately. Not just for the big things, but even in the small details of my life – sometimes in those more. I love the bumper sticker that says, “Do I really need Jesus to go to Heaven? Man, I need Jesus just to go to Wal-Mart.” And yet, it’s easy for me to adopt the attitude of a toddler who insists on doing it myself rather than admitting that I need help. And when I say, “God, grant” I am beginning with an admission that what I am and have is not enough, and that I am coming to the One who does in hope and expectation that He can give me what I need for this day.
I want to end each week by praying the Serenity Prayer, and I hope that over time, as you listen, you may decide to learn it and pray it as well.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as a pathway to peace.
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it to be.
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will – that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever.
Thank you for letting me be a part of Clear Bible, and New Joy Fellowship for a season. May God bless you and keep you as you go through this week. In the Name of Jesus, Amen.
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